Things I wish someone taught me when I was much much younger...The path of Self love is an infinite journey not a destination. So wear comfy shoes.. I use to be afraid to be vulnerable with ppl for fear of judgement. The judgement of being perceived as weak or damaged/flawed/imperfect....
I use to hide all of my percieved physical flaws as if feigning perfection wld make ppl less critical of me. I was wrong. The truth is, there are ppl out here with: physical imparements, in serious financial crisis and 2 seconds from losing it all, incurable diseases, mental health issues, relationship drama, homeless ect... being hyper critical and judgemental of others because it makes THEM feel less horrible abt themselves and or situation. In this case its NOT you, its them.
Most ppl want to feel like they are better than someone else. (Que the saying "hurt ppl hurt ppl". #itstrue ) Those folks are miserable and just deflecting their own pain in some way. However, even in understanding that, it never made me feel better abt what was happening.
From childhood to adulthood I was judged/teased/made fun of for my 4c textured hair, my teeth, this hyperpigmentation, my short stature, my itty bitty booty😂, and my weight gain ( by ppl I loved and respected). I use to let some of it fuq with me....
Then I had a "mirror moment". How cld I EVER expect anyone to accept me, if I wasnt "actually" fully accepting myself in some areas? I've learned, that the only way to take back your power, is to be confident AND in full acceptance of yourself and your percieved flaws. Look at your flaws. Touch them. Accept them. Expose them. Kiss them (if you can). LOVE👏 ON👏 THEM👏 thangs👏 because they are a part of you AND add to your uniqueness! At some point in your life, the wrong ppl will try to use them against you and that will crush you, but ONLY IF you havent accepted yourself.
But when you are good with you, shoot....you are able to release fear of judgment and move into a place of TRUE confidence You notice that you begin to navigate the world with more ease and grace. There is strength and freedom in vulnerability and exercising personal truth. Im glad that I arrived here. This mindset makes me more accepting and compassionate towards myself and others.
NOW my attitude is 👏 take 👏all 👏of 👏me as I am right now or get NONE of me. Aint no pickin' and choosin'. Oh and I dnt always feel the need to #clapback when someone points out a flaw unless my dark kermit is hungry, then I'm coming for that ass! 😂
#maskoff #loveyodamnself
Naz khalid
1/29/18
Eye Love this so much 💗 Greatfull, thank you for this ✨
Love this , this really spoke to me after having so many children my body is not what it used to be. Hence the reason I felt insecure about my belly and even thought about getting a tummy tuck. Then spirit talked to me and Inhad to realize gratitude , I was lacking that for what the creator blessed me to be able to do which is give life. So I shifted my perspective and had to remind myself I need to love on me, just the way I am as my suthetic self. So now I talk to my avatar and I give thankhs to her ,I talk to my womb hell I even dance in the mirror, but…
Hey family, y’all consider staring at your flaws in the mirror . Stand naked & face yourself daily . Speak to yourself in the morning . Love on yourself at night . Get in some charged salt water with a clear quartz. Eat your favorite food , fast . Enjoy yourself take yourself on a date ... buy yourself flowers . A few things to aid u on the journey 🤍
This is wow! My mother and I were talking about your entire post this morning. Just confirmation. I appreciate you for sharing.
I’ve been on both sides I would judge others even people I didn’t know. All because I didn’t understand certain things and the environment I was raised in looked down on people even family members. But I NEEDED the mirror slammed in my face (My therapist, 2019, Ajna Surah, you)so I can see me and accept my own flaws, and be able to accept all the choices I made and chose to make even thought it hurt to do so. I’m finally at a point where I’m accepting my truth and everything and taking myself as I Am